d'smotherdidbynotthreateningthefaceoftheotherpersonorthestatusquoofthecurrentrelationship.Case40:HowCanWeLendMoneytoHer?eintoconflictovermoneyorhowtheyrelatetoin-laws,plicatedbecausethereareculturaldifferencesinwhatisgoodandbadandwhatismorallyappropriateinthissituation.InGermanytherearestrongnormsagainstborrowingunlessyouabsolutelyhaveto,andthenyouborrowfromabankandpayitbackasquicklyasyoucan.asionsinwhichachildmustborrowfromaparent,youwouldneverborrowfromfamilymembers,becausetheyhaveenoughproblemsoftheirown.Incontrast,Laoborrowingnormsindicatethatborrowingisanaturalandongoingpartoflife.Noonehaseverythingtheyneed,soeveryonewillneedtoborrowatsometime.Buddhahassaid,"oyou,"soloaningisanhonor.Finally,borrowingfromaninstitutionisfrowneduponbecauseyouwillnotgetagooddealanditwilllooklikeyourfamily
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